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 A relationship is only as interesting as the person in it. When you're bored in a relationship, make it a point to recognise your limitations and perhaps step outside of your comfort zone. What is something you have always wanted to learn? What is it that you are interested in? What is it that you've been wanting to try but have been afraid to? Take a chance!

Learning something new may be all you need to keep your relationship alive because it gives you something to talk about, something to look forward to, and it improves your overall mental and emotional well-being.

Here are some more suggestions for keeping the spark alive in your long-term relationship.

Examine photos, read journal entries, and talk about how you first met. Reminiscing can help the two of you reconnect with enjoyable emotions that you've become too busy or comfortable to access.

Reminiscing also helps us regain the mental and emotional state of being present and open that we had at the start. Get some nice frames from a craft store, or put your favourites in a scrapbook or photo book. Go through old photos on your phones and stream them to the TV screen if you want to go digital. Have sacred rituals that the two of you commit to, such as going on an exotic vacation together once a year or having sex in the shower at every hotel you stay in!

To begin exploring together, try a board game or an outdoor activity. Try something new on your next date night that is outside of both of your comfort zones. You could, for example, go to a swanky club and listen to live jazz, play tennis, or rock climb. Make a date specifically for role playing. Pretend you're on your first date!

Boredom in your relationship is an opportunity for growth, but it is also a time to reflect on the memories and level of comfort you both feel. During difficult times, try verbally telling each other how much you appreciate each other for the little things. Cuddle frequently and try not to take each other for granted every day by reflecting on how grateful you are for each other before bed.

This may appear counterproductive, but communicating about a lull in the relationship may be exactly what both of you need to hold each other accountable for implementing one of the above suggestions. Simply say, "Hey, I miss you." "Can we make intentional time to connect a priority?"

If you're stuck for ideas or ways to rekindle your love for your partner, The Modern Love Box is a great option. Choose from curated Date Boxes filled with products and prompts to help you and your partner step up all levels of intimacy, our digital monthly communication activity designed to help the two of you deepen your communication and have more interesting topics to discuss on any date night, and/or our adult intimacy products designed to help you both explore sexually.

The majority of the work is done for you, and each of the offerings allows you to get closer and more connected when you don't know how.